Sunday, May 22, 2005
Manliest of the MANLY MEN
Who’s the Manliest of the Manly Men?Here’s my private list, in order of manliest (which means, remember, the most pleasing and aromatic combination of nurturance blended with supreme assertiveness. And of course, not even a whiff of aggression).
1. John Travolta
2. Paul Newman
3. Patrick Swayze
4. Robert Redford
5. Leonardo di Caprio
6. Tom Cruise
7. Sean Connery
8. Russell Crowe
9. Will Smith
10. Jimmy Stewart
Runners-up: Kevin Costner, Jon Stewart, and Johnny Depp
Unmanliest: John Wayne.
Many men seem assertive but not nurturing. Some are nurturing but not assertive enough. In my mind, the men on my sterling list are a delicious and intermingling combination of both! Some men, alas, feel neither assertive nor nurturing (Woody Allen comes to mind....)
Who's your #1 Manly Man?
Nurturance: To help nourish, sustain, grow, develop.
Assertiveness: Expressing your thoughts & feelings in direct, honest ways and without violating another's integrity.
Aggression: Expressing your thoughts & feelings in ways that humiliate or overpower another.
Non-Assertiveness: Failure to express yourself -- or expressing your thoughts so apologetically that others can easily disregard them.